I would appreciate if boyfriend wouldn’t read this ’till I say it’s ok. Right now I don’t want him to read this. So the whole post will be after the jump.
Yesterday I met my mum and aunt. But since they both needed to sleep I had a couple of hours between leaving them and going to work. So what would I do the four hours before work started? I didn’t know.
Then I bumped into a couple of acquaintances. So I tagged along. Met their friends and stuff… Until they decided to go to a club I was too young to get into. You had to be twenty-three there and I’m “only” nineteen. One of the guys I kinda know (he’s a regular at the same place as me) wasn’t going either. He had to get up in the morning or something like that… I honestly can’t remember.
He’s try to kiss me several times. I didn’t want to kiss him and he asked me why.
“Isn’t that I don’t want to reason enough?” I asked him.
“No, you are too pretty,” he said.
“So, cos I’m pretty I don’t have the right to say no, or what?” I asked him. I was annoyed…
He didn’t listen to my no, he kept nagging and trying to kiss me. In the end I gave in. I didn’t know what to do. How to get away from him…. I felt so stupid. Why should I be afraid of hurting his feelings when he obviously didn’t give a damn about my feelings? Or me as a autonomous person?
He wasn’t happy with kissing or making out, he was always trying to push me further, and crossed one line after the other. I stopped him several times, but it didn’t last. He always tried again, and again, and again. Every time I stopped him, he’s apologise. Since he didn’t stop for good I can’t say those apologies were sincere. They were just another way to get me to do what he wanted.
I’m upset, hurt and ashamed of myself. Why didn’t I just walk away?
Anyway, what do I call this? He made me make out with him, tried to get his hands in my pants (didn’t succeed), tried to get my hands in his pants (also didn’t succeed), masturbated in front of me… So what do I call it?
I don’t want to think about it, I just want to forget it. I just needed to write about it… Why can’t I stop thinking about it? I should be happy, I got into my first choice University.
Mortality's Thoughts 
I hope you feel better!
I’m really sorry to hear that this happened to you. I don’t even know what to say, really.
As for what to call it, well, that’s sexual assault. Given what happened, you could definitely charge him with sexual assault, but that’s ultimately up to you to decide.
I hope things turn out better.
What’s the point with reporting it? There is no way in hell I could get him convicted. Or even tried for it… It’s not worth it.
I don’t disagree with you at all. I’m not sure where you’re located, but I’m sure they’re no better at convicting men who sexually assault women than the judicial system is here in Canada, which, of course, really upsets me.
That said, I hope you’re dealing with it okay, and I would think any sexual assault centre would be helpful if you needed to talk about it.
Wow that sucks :(
Think of it this way … if you try to charge him with sexual assault, even if he comes out completely innocent, there will still be a record that he was tried and came out innocent.
Now, if he does the same thing to another girl later (which this asshole seems like he’ll do) and she tries to charge him, they’ll be able to see on his record that he’s been charged with the same thing, and maybe that time he’ll be convicted, or maye it’ll just be growing evidence until he finally does something really bad/stupid and will get convicted.
You never know what could happen.
There is no evidence and all he’s gotta do is say: “She has a boyfriend who would dump her if she cheated, so of course she’ll have to say it was sexual assault.”