Category: Habits


I wrote a post about my plans for the summer two months ago. I had a list of stuff I was planning to do ^^ Most of it I also did.

Plans for the summer:
*Watch five seasons NCIS with Raven
*Meet up with Bite Me and Bubblegum Boy at the same time :D Haven’t seen Bite Me for ages! (At least a year and a half!)
*Bake pie! (Lot’s of pie! Cos pie is awesome!)
*SLEEEEEEEP
*Clean out my old room at my mum’s place

So I watched two seasons NCIS, met up with Bite Me and Bubblegum Boy, did bake a lot of pie and sleep some. I didn’t clean out my old room yet though…

Oh, and I fell in love. Did not expect that!

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Boundaries

That people respect my boundaries is really, really important to me. Ignoring the “small” things, like once I told a guy I wanted the lights out before my clothes came off, makes me wonder if they will ignore my boundaries when it comes to the “big” things too. So generally I have very low tolerance for any boundary-pushing.

If I’m sleeping with someone fairly regularly and that person is also sleeping with other people condoms are a must at all times. If that person had unprotected sex with someone else I won’t get naked with them ’till they get tested. This is non-negotiable from my side.

A few days ago I was with Bubblegum Boy and we were making out on his couch and he paused two second to say: “This might ruin the mood, but you told me that you wanted to know if I had unprotected sex with someone else.  So I just wanted to let you know that since the last time we met I did have unprotected sex once.”

We didn’t have sex that night. We didn’t get naked that night. We didn’t even go past making out. There was a lot of “gah! I wish we could know if I had anything!” and “argh! I wish we could know if you had anything” and lot’s of being really horny. But he never tried to pressure me, he didn’t even ask if we could do anything just this once.

We were both equally frustrated from he lack of sex but he never once acted like it was my responsibility to keep him from crossing the line. Never once acted like it was my responsibility to get him off cos I’d made him horny. He even apologised and asked if he was being a tease and if I wanted him to stop with the making out and other stuff we were doing.

I asked him if he thought I was being paranoid and he said that he didn’t think so. He thought I was careful and that it would do him good to be more careful too. He told me he would go get tested as soon as he could, and we scheduled meeting up next weekend.

That is how you are supposed to act when it comes to boundarie

I have a bunch of rules when it comes to sex. I don’t have sex without condoms. I don’t sleep with complete strangers. I don’t have sex with people who are too old or too young. I don’t have sex with people who are in monogamous relationships (unless it’s a relationship with me that is xD). I only do stuff if it’s exactly what I wanna do right now, right here. That last part has led to a few instances where I was a bit unsure, didn’t have sex that night but had sex the next morning. I only have sex with people I trust to respect a no. This means that if a potential partner ignores some small thing I’m uncomfortable with I will not have sex with that person. I won’t sleep with someone if they make me feel like a second choice. I won’t sleep with someone if I’d rather have sex with someone else.

I need to find something to do soon… All the free time is making me go crazy. I broke down yesterday ><

I’ve been baking so much pie just to have something to do these past few weeks xD Apparently my pie is awesome ^^

Today I’m going to the beach ^^ Pixie is coming too :D Haven’t seen her in ages :) Will is also going and some other people too ^^ I went to the beach on Wednesday with Risika’s ex. I think it’s kinda fun how we ended up becoming friends ^^ Risika is getting married this summer :O To some guy she met online. Getting married at 21 in Sweden isn’t very common.

Since I haven’t got a summer job I’ll pretty much be free ’till late August. I’ll be pretty broke, but I’ll hopefully be able to relax and do nothing for a while :) (I’ll go crazy if I don’t find something to do soon though…. Gah!)

This past few weeks I’ve met up with some friends and just stayed at home doing nothing.

Plans for the summer:
*Watch five seasons NCIS with Raven
*Meet up with Bite Me and Bubblegum Boy at the same time :D Haven’t seen Bite Me for ages! (At least a year and a half!)
*Bake pie! (Lot’s of pie! Cos pie is awesome!)
*SLEEEEEEEP
*Clean out my old room at my mum’s place

This past week I think I’ve spent more time at Will’s place than at home. I’ve also been at school some and I worked fourteen hours on Thursday with a pub and a party later that night. Yesterday I also ended up working at a party, this time I got paid though :D In the cab home I was so exhausted I wasn’t completely sure what day it was even xD Slept a lot tonight though :D

Will is another of the many people I met through my extra curricular activities with working partied and what not. I just though he deserved a name since I’ve spent so much time with him this week ^^ A lot of that time has been spent in his bed ^^ We’ve watched almost the whole second season of Futurama :D (And yes, we ended up having sex)

I think I’m still a bit loopy from exhaustion and sleep deprivation xD

Awesome Saturday

I had an awesome day yesterday :D Some friends from school where having a party or something. We started of sitting on a roof on a roof and just hanging out and drinking. Then when the sun set we went and had some pizza and then went on to a dorm room and continued the party :D It was a lot of fun :D And I got to make out too ^^