
Commenters
30 August, 2008The person who commented on my post from yesterday also left a comment on my first post:
Did you actually tell him NO ?
Clearly and in no uncertain terms say that you were not consenting?
From your post it does not look like you did ….
I won’t let that comment through. From his blog I can tell that we probably don’t agree on anything, so why should we agree on a definition of rape? It doesn’t matter if I said “[c]learly and in no uncertain terms say that [I was] not consenting”. What matters is that he didn’t ask me for a yes. What matters is that what went on was emotional abuse, even if he had never touched me.
What matters is that he went on asking even after I had said no. Cos I did say no. Several times even. I told him I didn’t want to do what he wanted me to do. What matters is that he could just go on with his life like nothing happened and I will have to live with it forever.

It’s unfortunate that we live in a world full of coercion and manipulation so pervasive that we can’t even see it clearly anymore.
And if I never said it, thanks for writing this blog. Peace.